IF I’VE BEEN FORGIVEN, WHY DO I STILL FEEL BAD?
You’ve been a regular at the Bible studies and worship services, but they leave you flat.
You are doing your best, but you can’t silence the voice inside that says, “It’s not good enough,” and even worse, “YOU’RE not good enough.” Where’s the abundant life Jesus talks about? Where is the joy of the Lord?
If you’ve ever asked any of these questions, I can assure you, you are not alone. Churches are full of people who are going through the motions while they are dying inside.
How can you get comfortable in your own skin? How can you get to the point where you don’t have to pretend you’re happy because the joy of the Lord really is your strength?
Questions like this bothered me for a long time. I mean, if we have the good news, why isn’t there more joy in the church? Twenty years ago, I set out to learn the answer. Along the way, I went to seminary, pastored a church, and searched the Scriptures.
What I found surprised me. I looked all over and discovered that the answer was under my nose the whole time, right there in the Bible. Yet no one in the church, even pastors like me, seemed to recognize it. And, because of that, one of the greatest treasures of the Gospel has remained buried in the Bible while Christians live a shadow of the existence that should be theirs.
But it doesn’t need to be that way! You can experience the fruit of the Spirit rather than just study it.
Just ask Annie.
Annie is a teacher at a Christian school and a faithful church member. Yet, feelings of shame often sabotaged her. However, God changed all that, and Annie feels more alive than ever before. She says,
I was always a little resistant to God’s love.
Now I feel a love for God I’ve never had before.
I have life in me. It’s good to be me.
Get this book and hear more of Annie’s story—how shame stole her identity and how God gave it back. You’ll also learn what I shared with Annie—how to get to the root of your problem instead of just snipping away at the branches.
I loved this book and plan to read it regularly. Robert’s description of shame shows that it is a universal topic that most must face at some point in their lives if they want to move forward on their journey. His practical, gentle, grace-filled recommendations empower and bring hope. And his description of Jesus having two outstretched arms — one that brings forgiveness and the other that brings healing — paints a picture that brings clarity to a topic that has been misunderstood by many in the church. This book would be a gift to anyone, and it also further equips those of us who are ministering to others. Thank you, Robert, for sharing your wisdom and experience.
– Julia Holtze, Spiritual Formation Pastor, Hosanna! Church, Lakeview, MN
What you’ll get inside:
- A diagnosis of a problem that could be sucking the life out of you.
- A simple guide to help you discern if this is your problem.
- A vision of a new life that’s waiting for you—the real you.
- A guide to getting free and reclaiming your inheritance as a child of God.
- A first step for helping others.
I’m not saying this will be easy. Getting to the core of issues can be painful but not nearly so painful as a life filled with disappointment and disillusionment. I’m not saying it will be easy, but I am saying it will be liberating. Sometimes you need a little soul surgery to reconnect with God. He is the one who will help you discover your real self, your real purpose, and the joy of the journey.
I wholeheartedly endorse Robert Walter’s book “If I have been forgiven why do I still feel bad?” Robert identifies the underlying culprit, shame, and points to the hope of healing through growing the “joy center” of the brain via deepening relationship with God. Once God reveals truth about self, joy grows and healing commences. We do not need to remain captive to shame. God wants us to be free of it. I also endorse the Immanuel Prayer approach Robert uses, where the prayer counselor becomes the “coach” as both counselor and counselee listen for the heart of God together.
– Kathleen Basehore, Psychologist, Bernville, Pennsylvania